At least it’s a far cry from Mysterious Skin, 13 Reasons Why, Annabel, Priscilla Queen of the Desert, Brokeback Mountain and Perks of Being a Wallflower to name a few. I’m afraid even the argument for films like Call Me By Your Name can be brooked by the fact the sexual engagement depicted is statutory rape and assault.
Very rarely is sex between LGBTQI people depicted as consensual, if at all, in mainstream content. Apparently rape has become shorthand for rough sex and kinks around safety and denial. Eventually, I spoke to a friend who told me this language has become par for the course, and I shouldn’t be too worried or take it too personally. Several occasions followed of being flirted at with lines like “I don’t want your consent” and “I want to rape your mouth so bad”, to which I’d always respond that some people might be upset by that and then I’d get blocked. “I want to rape your cock with my hole.” How could he make such an error? He wasn’t to know how triggering that statement would be to me, so I bit back angst to calmly respond with, “as someone who has been raped, I’m not sure I’m into that idea.” I think I threw in a sweaty-brow-laugh emoji to take the edge off, but nonetheless I was instantly blocked.
I remember trying to work out how he made the typo. Content warning: this article discusses rape and sexual trauma.
